It’s difficult to say which “job” is more demanding: practicing medicine or being a mom. In honor of Mother’s Day, some LG Health moms share the challenges and rewards of balancing work and family.
 

Terri Rapp, M.D., May-Grant Obstetrics & Gynecology


Dr. Terri Rapp and her family

About me, my job and my family: I work full-time plus as a managing partner at May-Grant Obstetrics & Gynecology. My husband, Craig Horvat, M.D., and I have three boys, ages 12, 13 and 16. Right now two play lacrosse, one plays soccer, and the youngest is into music and plays. I'm always grateful when I have a chance to see them play. If I start office hours at 7 and get done at 3:30, I can get to a game at 4. Sometimes I just go and catch whatever part of the game I can catch.

How I make it work: It's all a matter of planning and coordinating, and it works pretty well for us. If I wasn't organized, I don't think we could do it. We all have a calendar on our cell phones, and we have a big written calendar on the wall in the mudroom, so everyone can see where everyone else is going.

Me time: I get a little time to myself, but not much. I try to squeak in a little exercise. I go to Dream Dinners to prep meals for the month. That helps so much. I like to do cross-stitch and logic puzzles and watch "The Walking Dead" and other TV shows as a family. We also take family vacations to the NJ shore and Maine, and we're planning a trip to Hawaii next winter.

My advice to other moms: Good help is critical. My husband is amazing. Despite the fact that he is full-time physician and is very busy too, we have always been a team. We've also always had additional hired help since our extended families do not live locally. Now that our boys are older, we have a "nanny" who helps with driving them around. It's good to have peace of mind that someone is there to help on a snow day or if one of the kids is sick.
 


 

Aarin Deibler, MSN, RN, CEN, Nurse Manager, 6 North

 

Nurse Manager Aarin Deibler and her family

About me, my job and my family: I am a 20-year employee of LG Health.  My husband and I have three kids: two sons, who are 8 and 14, and a 10-year-old daughter. I usually get to work between 6:30 and 7 a.m. and leave between 4 and 6 p.m. My husband is a car salesman who works until 8 p.m. Our marriage is a partnership, and he is very supportive of my career.

As a manager, I am accountable and available 24/7 to my unit. It’s tough, because as a perfectionist, I don’t want to shortchange anybody. As a mother, I try to be emotionally available and involved in my children’s lives. I feel like my daughter looks at me with the understanding that she can do it all too. She is a competitive cheerleader, plays violin and is active at our church.  This summer she will start dance classes and attend summer camp. She’s just as busy as I am! She just thinks it’s normal to be busy.

How I make it work: I believe that as a woman, you can do it all, but you have to be extremely organized.  Work-life balance has to be scheduled. My work calendar includes out of office time at the end of the day so I can get to games, practices and school functions. I schedule everything from family dinners to concerts to travel time. I don’t make personal appointments private on my work calendar, so people can see why I’m not in the building. I am grounded by my faith and wouldn’t be able to do anything well without it.

Me time: I even schedule time for the little luxuries of life. For instance, I enjoy getting my nails done. It’s quiet time when nobody’s talking to me, I don’t have to make decisions, and I get to enjoy a little pampering. My favorite thing to do is to sing and play music with my husband.  He’s a great guitar player!

My advice to other moms: Remember why you work. I love what I do, but I also provide for my family. At the end of the day, nobody is going to remember the hours you logged. Quality time and relationships are what’s important. I love being a nurse manager, but my favorite job is being a mom.
 



Dr. Ashley Kempsell’s 17-month-old daughter, Charlotte

Ashley Kempsell, M.D., LG Health Physicians Family Medicine Lincoln

About me, my job and my family: My husband, Kyle Wojciechowski, is Manager of Oncology Outpatient Infusion at ABBCI. We met when he was a nurse in the ED and I was a resident. Our daughter Charlotte is 17 months old. After Charlotte was born, I realized that time is really precious, and you can’t get it back. I see patients for six hours, five days a week. Once I do my documentation, it’s more like an eight-hour day. I plan to stick with this schedule because it works for me and our family.
 
How I make it work: My parents moved here from Northern Virginia to help us. My dad is retired, and he watches Charlotte while I’m at work. My mom was a stay-at-home mom, and I struggled a little bit with the idea of being a working mom. Mom guilt is totally a thing! This is the best of all possible worlds. Knowing that Charlotte is with someone in the family makes it easier.
 
In medicine there is an undercurrent of pressure, and the idea that you can’t be the best doctor unless you’re at the office or available 24/7, and working harder or longer than anyone else. Medicine is a really important part of my life, but there are other parts of my life too. I had to change my perspective and accept that it’s OK to not be a doctor 100 percent of the time. I had to realize that it’s OK to say no.
 
Me time: Charlotte just started sleeping through the night, so I am feeling more rested and rejuvenated overall. I sing in the Wheatland Chorale. That’s my non-doctor, non-mom time once a week.
 
My advice to other moms: Do what makes you feel happy and fulfilled. The right answer for me might not be the right answer for someone else. Don’t worry about what other people think. By nature, medicine is a really giving field, and people will take whatever you are willing to offer. Set boundaries, and stick to them without feeling guilty. That’s the hardest part.

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