Let’s face it parents, college is not only the beginning of a whole new phase of life for your child, it’s a time of significant change for you too.
Most college students move away from home and are no longer under your watchful eye. They have new responsibilities, pressures and independence, are interacting with an entirely different group of people, and their usual patterns of exercise, sleep and diet are likely very different. All of this can cause increased stress and unfortunately, an increased risk for mental health issues. Sadly, according to the American College Health Association, suicide is the second leading cause of death among college students.
Even though you may no longer be in close proximity, you are still their main source of support and you know your child better than anyone else. Here's what you need to know.
College Suicide: Statistics and Risk Factors
According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), young adults account for 14% of all suicides. Although young adult males are more likely to be at risk for suicide, every gender and ethnicity is susceptible. Students with lower GPAs, disabilities, or who are part of the LGBTQ+ community, are at increased risk. Other risk factors include:
- Mental health disorders, especially mood disorders, schizophrenia, anxiety disorders, and certain personality disorders
- Prior suicide attempts
- Feelings of isolation and lack of support
- Relationship problems
- Physical illness
- Poor coping skills
- A traumatic event
- Access to a suicide method
- Family history
- Impulsivity issues
Signs of Suicide in College Students
Below are some warning signs of suicide to be aware of, but ultimately, TRUST YOUR GUT. You know your child. If you sense something is wrong, you are probably right.
- Declining grades
- Risk-taking or self-destructive behavior
- Worsening hygiene and appearance
- Increased alcohol and drug use
- Mood changes, agitation, anger, or loss of interest in activities previously enjoyed
- Changes in eating and sleeping patterns
- Statements of hopelessness, helplessness or worthlessness
- Isolation, cessation of usual contact with family/friends
Questions to Ask Your Child
Even with your child away from home, there are ways to help safeguard their mental health. Keep in touch using whatever method your child prefers, whether that be text, phone or Facetime. Especially during freshman year, your child needs the strong family support they have always relied on.
The Jed Foundation, an organization dedicated to preventing teen and young adult suicide, suggests ways to talk with your child if you sense a problem.
Ask open-ended question about friends, classes, or other events you think could be stressors for them, and listen carefully to their tone and willingness to share. Try to keep the conversation casual. Maybe start with a simple “How are you doing”?
If your child responds with disinterest, point out what you have noticed about their mood and actions that concerns you. Frame it in a laid-back way. For example, “You seem to be stressed lately, are things ok at school?” “Is there a way I can help you?” or “How are your friends?”
If your child doesn’t feel like engaging in conversation, try reaching them by sharing struggles you faced at their age. Then try the conversation again later.
Suicide Prevention Resources
Many colleges have mental health counseling services. Check you student’s college website for information on mental health and suicide prevention. Make your child aware of these resources.
The 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, along with prevention and crisis resources. Just call 988.
If you believe your child is in immediate danger of suicide, contact law enforcement in their area for help.
Anyone can be struggling with suicidal thoughts. Even considering that possibility with your child is beyond frightening. However, understanding the warning signs of suicide and mental health issues is an important step in prevention and can help you start potentially life-saving conversations.